A thought on life... (2)

Hi to all my readers,

Just a brief recap, on my previous post I emphasized on living your life with your own choices. I hope that it have helped you in some way positive.

Today, I'll be emphasizing on failures.

There's a lot of times in our life, when we have make decisions either BIG or small. Despite having all the information needed to help us make a decision. We are still afraid of making the wrong choices. WE ARE AFRAID OF FAILURES.

Scenarios: -
High School - Which stream (science or acts) should I take?
College - Which major should I take?
Work - Which firm should I go?

Putting all 3 scenarios into your life when you are trying to please the people around you (e.g. family, relatives, friends, teachers, society).

Sometimes we are affected by their comments and emotions we give in to their choices and ignoring what we are want. And, we suffer the consequences ourselves.

What kind of suffering: -
- pulling down your self esteem living in someone else standards.
- mentally drained - trying to meet their standards.
- FEAR of doing things in your ways.
- FEAR of trying new things.

The sufferings will happen somewhere in your life because you are not living the way you feel good at OR doing the things you ought to do. And, this is when we...I will usually break apart and say 'life is hard'.

*You may think what I'm saying is wrong but trust me in the long run you will feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Not until I read a quote by Sydney Harris saying:
"When I hear somebody sigh,'life is hard', I am always tempted to ask,'compared to what?"

And it got me thinking, life is hard most of the time because we made it that way as we always take the easy way out of giving in (avoid conflict and all negative reactions) than to try to seek what we want (reason with parties concerning their decision on us and us reasoning with them of our decision).

Since, most of the time we make life hard. Then what is there harder than living life itself. Think about it? Life is suppose to be simple so that we can survive but we are not satisfied. Hence, the complications don't you agree? (E.g. big house, new car, more degrees or PhDs etc etc)

As that being said, the second part of the quote by Sydney Harris, what is there more complicated in life? The answer is NOTHING. Why? Because everything we do, think and dream is part of life itself. (E.g. we dream of our dream future partner its life, we dream of what we want its life, we study its life, we have fun its life, we work its life). Thus there's nothing in this world can be more complicated than life.

After a long introduction, I hope it have helped you understand the concept a bit about life. If there's any confusion here one sentence to summarized it, "LIFE IS HARD SO WHY WORRY ABOUT FAILING."

Think about it?
*I will continue my thought in a few days time :)

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A thought on life... (1)

Hi to all my fellow readers,

Today, I will be a post on a topic or matter that has been bothering you, bothering me at some point of our lives. I do not know how to categories this thought. So please READ it to know more about it :)

Alright, here goes. Many times in our lives, we always think, respond, and act to what the surrounding tells us. What do you think? Is it true or false?

Well, I don't know about you but in my journey of my life as to where I am standing now there are many instances where life have direct me to the way I'm thinking now, to the way I should respond, also taking actions that is either good or bad, and enjoy the fruit? However, for me, it wasn't much of enjoying the fruit of my decisions but many times it was to bare the consequences of it.

Just to share a few examples:-
- My upbringing which cause me to think about which course I should take in college.
- My friends which influence which college I should go to.
- How society (family, friends, relatives, the media) influence me on how to act.

So, we have been pushed around by our surroundings to act. Not saying its entirely bad but we have been making bad choices ourselves until we realized its too late and make a turn or we don't have the time for that turn at all!

The most relevant example to give is:
Parents telling their child what course they should take in college.

Though parents choices may not be wrong but are we happy at the end of the days?

What I'm emphasizing is to live your life with the right choices. Live for yourself then only for others. As one can't live for others if he/she can't live for themselves.

As Abraham Lincoln once said,
"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."

*Note: To those that still living under your parents, depending on them financially and your needs. I'm not asking you go argue with your parents on their decision but ask them for their reason as to their reason. And, if its not what you think suits you or for you, try reasoning with them why and select the best course of action for both of you (so both of the parties will be happy at the end of the day and not one).

Hence, do you think you can start making decisions that counts for yourself?

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WONG MUNN SING PART III

Hi again, I hope my childhood and high school life had helped all of you in a way :)

Now, I will touch on my life before college, then SPM, then college life ;P

Pre - college:

This chapter of my life is just after my SPM examination.

To keep it short.

I picked the college, I picked the course, I picked everything...
The reason was it was want I want that's what I thought then.
So, I picked Taylor's University College (TUC), I picked American Degree Program (ADP). Then HELP University College (HUC), same course. Finally, Sunway University College (SUC) and picked Certified Accounting Technician (CAT).

SPM result:

I THANK GOD for my results despite the fact I studied the night before every subject.

College:

It was 2006, when I enrolled into TUC in the ADP division.

I had a dream. A dream of majoring psychology to be a psychologist to graduate and aim for BIG companies and to earn BIG bucks and be famous.

However, things did go the way I thought it would. As I realized it much later on...

When I was in TUC, I was very naive, a spoiled brat, it was others first then myself (e.g. yam cha, cyber cafe, sports, and only my studies) and many more. I had gain freedom from the wrong way from my parents :)

Why did I do it? No idea.

Alright, it was when i was in my last semester in TUC. I realized I have been fooling around perhaps too much. I had forgotten my dream and I was every far from achieving it. So, I had remembered and went on to HUC with a renewed passion.

Okay, when I was in HUC, I stopped fooling around it was all for myself then others. No more late nights, no more yam cha, less cyber cafe. However, later on in 2008 I realized I was in the other extreme when I was in TUC. Also, I had a changed on how I view the world and myself. And that's how I went to SUC doing CAT.

So, what is the MOST IMPORTANT lesson in the days of my college life:
- Don't be impatient
- Don't be ignorant
- Don't take too many things into your own hands if its not within your capacity
- Don't forget GOD and do things on my own!!!

I have learned it the hard way, I hope you will learn it before making some of the mistakes I made.

Okay here is some information I'm going to disclose again to reduce repeating myself over and over again.

Why? Psychology
Because:
- Interested in knowing human behavior
- The income potential
- Wanted to help humanity (cooperate)

Why? Stop
Note: I didn't say I wouldn't complete it in the future. It's just a changed in mindset and how I view things which had make me put a pause in that plan.

Why? Accounting
Reason:
- To learn what is required of businesses - tax, account, cost, audi and law (which I had not touch it at all)
Note: The way I view it now is I would be able to help others better if I had in my own. It may be impossible but I BELIEVE I CAN DO IT!!!

Now, you all should roughly know my history and you will be getting post on my present life. So, please keep your comments, opinions, questions coming!!! So you and I can learn from one another :)

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WONG MUNN SING PART 2

Hi to all readers,

I'm back. On this post I will be sharing with you all on my secondary school life at Catholic High School.

When I was form 1, I was still like any other student - boring. And, always thinking why do I study? Is it because my parents tell me to? If it is no way :D

This Chapter of my life starts in the year 2002. I was form 2 then. When I met a guy named "Sze Ming", whom I have known at the end of form 1 in a bm tuition in EDUSMART, SS2. And, whom I found out he goes to the same church my parents go to, the same high school I go to.

Note: I do go to my parents cell group (cg) every Wednesday, where the leaders they kept on encouraging me to attend the youth cg in DUMC. Of which I refused.

So, the "Sze Ming" fellow realized the same thing as well. And, the irony of that is he asked me to come join him. Well, I refused and avoided.

So to continue the story, form 2. Guess what happen that year?

The first day of school, students line up according to their class in the assembly hall, went to our respective class, find a place to sit, make new friends and out of horror I saw that Sze Ming fellow at the end of the class. I was shocked.

I went to him and asked do you still remember me??? I obviously didn't know what was going through my mind or was I doing. Expected the worst.

He forgot who I was and I was happy :P. Not until a few weeks later, he came up to me and said I remember you. I was scare already.

That being said, he started persuading me to go cg. I refused, gave excuses and avoided him.

1 month went by, 2 months went by and I was pushing his limits already.

3 Notes:
1. He was biggest size than me ( me X 2 = him)
2. CG is on Saturdays
3. I was a very stubborn fellow (now still is sometimes)

He ran out of juice or ways. He finally burst and opt. to threaten me. How?
Change your tuition to Saturday early afternoon, so tuition we can go cg together, then dinner and finally church celebration then go home with my parents.

Of course, I refused. Then the threat comes, comply or I will drag you to cg myself.
I was shocked. Church people can be rough but soon I realized the goodness of going :).

After complying, I started going to cg - make new friends, learn new things about life, about friendship, about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I had a great time there.

I was happy.

So, I started attending seminars, conferences, camps, courses and my very first mission camp to Sabah. And, christian fellowship in Catholic High.

I was on the fast track growing spiritually with the knowledge and encounter. It was good.

Form 3, I was given a post in the committee and I started learning - how to organize events, lead small group in praise and worship, sermon and have fun.

And, it is this year that I found the joy of studying. I had friends to encourage me, help me with questions I don't understand. So, I studied for my PMR.

It was after PMR, that God finally put me to test in all that I have learned. And I have failed His test. Along the way, I felt into temptation and I felt to a point, I didn't know how to pull myself back up.

It was then I had experience a spiritual burnout.

Form 4, I was elected in the main committee in the CF. But I was ashamed and I started to disappear from CF, CG and church totally. I gave in to my flesh and I lost and I felt deeper.

I was somewhere near year end that a fellow named "Kent" urge the others to find out what had happen to me and to bring me back.

In that process, few guys consulted me etc etc. And, I came back. And, I felt His grace and mercy was upon me. And, in that year I cried many times.

Done with cf, and there was a part that happen between me and the church too.

It was end of Form 4, it was school holiday. I got a part time job. So, what the big deal.

Somewhere the beginner of the year I registered myself to the mission camp. And, with all the things going on with myself. I ignored it and well no one will remember. I was stupid then.

So, the dateline for payment has come. The leader of the mission camp called. The youth pastor called. I decline.

And, they say we have booked your air ticket. If you don't want to go - find someone to replace you or pay the air ticket.

I was like *shocked*. Told my parents about it. And they were like, I won't be paying something I'm not going. Since I'm working they told me use that money to pay your air ticket.

So, I took my scientific calculator and started pushing numbers. And, I was at a lose. So, I agreed and went.

In this mission camp, I have go with a heart of stone and with a sense of arrogance. Thinking its the same thing, same materials, same speaker. SAME!

But, God has its plan for me, for everyone. The more you try to play games with Him. The hard it is to run and hide from Him. And the harder the impact will be. So, never test God that was my lesson.

I remember upon arrival at the camp that very first night, there was a welcome party. It was fun there was music, games, jumping etc etc.

And it was time to get serious. It was praise and worship. With my heart of stone I followed the clapping and silent myself. I can make it through this camp.

But, things happen in the course of a different direction. As praise after praise until the first song of worship. I snapped and I cried. I lost.

In this whole camp, I have learned many things. It hasn't just theory but applying. I have learned to forgive myself to stand up again, forgive my dad.

Form 5, SPM year. I went through it like any other ordinary student.
I go to school, do homework, study, sleep in school and home, play PC games and EAT!!!

Graduated from high school. XD

So, this is a summary of what had happen in my life during high school that played an important role in shaping who I am today.

There's more. But the next part I will be focusing on pre college and college life which will soon be in my present moments :)

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WONG MUNN SING PART I

Hi to all readers,

This post will be about me and me alone.

I will be going back into my past a little - touch and go. Before I start the fun part of my life.

Therefore, PAST >>> PRESENT.

Okay, in this post I will be covering
Birth -> Kindergarten -> Primary -> High School -> College.

Birth:

I am a premature born baby of an early birth of 32 days before the estimated birth of date.

I came into this world impatiently in the early morning on 17th December 1988.

In a general hospital in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

In birth, I have learned my first great lesson which is STOP being impatient.
Why? I was in ICU for 2 months because of underdeveloped lungs. And, with multiple dysfunctional grow/lackness of my left leg which was found out later on in life. :D

So, I have joined the World, the Human Race and the Wong Family.

Kindergarten:

In this chapter of my life, both of my parents was still working.

And, I was sent to baby sitting. One that took care of me since baby until I as 6 years old.

By now I'm 4 years of age, time to enter society. And my first encounter was in a kindergarten, called Kindergarten Chim (if i spell it correctly and if it still exists). Its around the corner of a roundabout in DU.

This is all I can remember.

Primary School:

I was enrolled into S.J.K.(C)Damansara which was located at section 17 then, now it is located at Tropicana, PJS.

In this chapter of my life, you catch a glimpse of what I am when I was young.

I dislikes studying.
I was lazy.
I was playful.
I was disobedient.
I was LOST.
I was a nuisance to my parents :D

Then, I did not know what friendship is and what life is. Thus, I didn't take them seriously or nothing at all. Because there were no one to tell this LOST soul about them.

So, my primary life is the most not happening yet important chapter of my life. I don't have any close friends in primary that I would call or have their contacts.

Now, before enter my high school life...

Here, is a pre high school life. The transaction of me before entering Catholic High School.

Pre High School:

At this moment, my mum had decided to lower a notch down of work to being a full time housewife.

And, around this time. all my siblings has entered this world as well.

Okay, after primary school. Parents would normally worry about their child education as to venue then convenience especially for their first child.

As this being said, my mum was worried and because of my poor result in UPSR it had make her worry more.

Then, that is rumor going around that Catholic High School (CHS) is a prestige and well behaved school. Guess what?

My mum took matters into her own hands. By going to CHS and tried some traditional ways - Goodwill.
Result? Failed. XD

So how did manage to enter CHS? Shortly after that, my mum told my class teacher about it and some interesting things happen. My class teacher met my school ex-headmaster which was then in the department where his job was to enlist primary graduates to their respective high school.

This is how I got in CHS :)

Okay, my high school chapter is the longest chapter of my life yet. Where, things started to change here. Which I will continue in WONG MUNN SING PART 2 :D

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